So i am trying to find friends?

but its not working online, i did myspace and a few seemed interested then one called me a gay word, another said he was gay so that i wouldnt be friends with him, and two others just havent really responded, one guy i had im'd with on gmail one night and since i heard nothing, another one asked where i lived and hasnt said anything to me since. i know most of these guys like to get drunk and high and i havent really done that i am willing to. i don't think you can go to bars to find them by yourself but idk. how do you approach people in a bar or whatever? and i can't work atm so getting a job is ruled out, should i invest in activities on my own first and make friends that come along through there that just is too patient for me.